But I didn't have a dress. And you get one real wedding day. If you elope, that's kind of it. And we would still would have to say goodbye for six months...I'd just be bidding my husband adieu, rather than kissing my fiance goodbye. That sounded even worse. And let's face it: I might as well spend my newly-engaged time tinkling with wedding projects, rather than spend my first newlywed year sadly watching episodes of Modern Family and eating pints of Half Baked, waiting for the hubs to finish his time in Baghdad.
So we didn't. And most of the time I'm glad, because the silly girl inside does still want a dress, a wedding, a weekend with my nearest and dearest...killer photos to show the kiddos someday. This girl's throwin' a wedding. And I'm so excited about it. But dang, that ish is expensive and a lil' stressful.
And here's the stress: Wedding perfection. I've kept my distance from wedding blogs and magazines for the past three weeks, because rather than feeling inspired when I read pages and pages of pastel candy-coated nuptial perfection, I'm left feeling waaaahh-waaah. Because Gabe and I don't look like models. Or have a mint green vintage car to drive off in. Because my father isn't going to build us a wedding barn with his own two hands. Because I can't fit in my grandmother's wedding dress. Because we can't whittle our own cake toppers. Because I can't sew my bridesmaids' dresses out of vintage fabric. Because I'm not a graphic designer, and I can't screenprint our invitations onto vintage hankies.
As you can imagine, the "can't" list goes on and on. But I have to be done with "can't", otherwise I risk spending multiple bridezilla-esque months hyperventilating over a specific shade of Sea Breeze Green...rather than infusing our wedding with love and our personality. Even if our day doesn't rival the weddings of Martha Stewart magazine or 100 Layer Cake, we can make an entirely beautiful-to-us day.
So here's my wedding can-do list:
We can stop worrying about what is "in", and start stocking up in what is "us".
We can ensure that our closest family and friends know how much they are loved and their presence appreciated.
I can wear something that makes me feel like a bajillion bucks. He can look pretty hot, too.
We can make sure our bridesmaids feel gorgeous (because they all are!) and flattered.
We can serve food that is fun + yummy, rather than food that is expected and traditional.
We can have a dessert buffet...no matter what it costs.
We can invest in a fabulous photographer, allowing us to remember all our little beautiful efforts.
But most of all, we can remember that our wedding is just a day...but we are forever.
Brides, brides-to-be or girls who simply like to dream in advance:
How do you avoid feeling inferior + getting overwhelmed by ultra creative wedding blogs, magazines and books?