12.24.2011

a very special guest post.


Hello and hope you are all enjoying the holidays! I’m Gabriel, Bethany’s fiancé and the ineloquent writer filling in for her today.  I promise she will be back soon. It’s just that I rarely feel like writing, but the holidays are a subject about which I’ve recently gained some understanding. 
For the past 14 years I have either been in the military or serving with the military in some form or another. I can count on one hand the number of birthdays and Christmases I have actually been home to see. Over the years, when you are gone for more holidays than you’re home, you tend to let yourself think that a holiday is really just another day.  You tell yourself there’s nothing special about the day; nothing to really miss.  Over this last month though, I have realized that this is just a coping mechanism.  Once you admit that you are missing out on something so special, so often, it suddenly becomes a big deal. You realize you’re missing out on a lot. 

This Christmas will be my first at home in years.  And I say “at home” because since meeting Bethany, I think of my home as wherever my beautiful fiancé is. It is not really a place that makes my home, but a person.  Knowing that we’ll wake up on Christmas morning, see each other and open presents together makes me realize that I wouldn’t trade this for anything in the world. Being gone for so long, I kind of lost sight of that.  They say you never really know what you have until you lost it, but I had the reverse of that. I never really knew what I was missing until I found her. Spending Christmas with Bethany is the best gift I could possibly receive.
So, the best gift I can give to others is to remind them of the gift of experience.  No matter how stressful Christmas can be with friends and family, don’t let yourself miss it.  Stop and take it all in. After being away for so long, I know for sure that it’s the best thing in the world.

I wish you a very Merry Christmas and hope you enjoy every moment with family and friends.

23 comments:

  1. This is precious!! I hope you two have a wonderful, magical, and very blessed Christmas together! :)

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  2. This is so sweet--enjoy each other! And congratulations on finally being home for christmas. :-)

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  3. What a lovely post! I second what Amanda says as far as the congratulations on being home and I hope that you and Bethany have a wonderful Christmas together! :-)

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  4. Thank you for this beautiful post. It caused me to stop and think carefully about the points you made, about the experience being the best gift. I'm happy for you and Bethany that you may experience this Christmas together.

    Loulou Downtown

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  5. Gabriel, thank you for all of the sacrifices that you and Bethany make in order for you to serve. I am so happy that, for once, you are able to have the holiday you deserve with the woman that you deserve. And I agree wholeheartedly - home is wherever your loved ones are. Enjoy!

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  6. Thank you for this, Gabe. It's beautifully written and sweet. Merry Christmas!!

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  7. this is the sweetest thing in the world. i'm so happy for you both that you're home :) enjoy your time together :)

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  8. You made me all teary eyed, damn you. THAT is what christmas is all about. Have a great one, the both of you. xoxo

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  9. Oh Gabe, you made me cry! Happy Christmas tears though... So I don't mind. It makes my sentimental heart so happy that you two are finally together again.

    Merry Christmas, and the Happiest Ever New Year!!!

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  10. Merry Christmas to you both.

    Gabriel, thank you so much for your service to the country. I am so grateful for you and your fellow soldiers. God bless you!

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  11. this brought a smile to my face!! Welcome home Gabe! Have a merry merry Christmas to you and Bethany!

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  12. What a beautiful guest post Gabriel!! Everything you said on this blog is true and precious :) I'm so happy for you and Bethany and I'm glad you two found each other! Have THE best Christmas ever! May you be blessed with fun, laughter, and happiness this Christmas and all through the new year!! *cheers*

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  13. So very happy you found each other. May your Christmas find you spending many stolen moments under the mistletoe!
    Blessings!

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  14. I think back to all the Christmas memories we've had all these years with just the 4 of us and how special it has been to make it 5 of us! We so enjoy having you as part of our family and feel so blessed to have you with us this Christmas!

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  15. How sweet, Gabriel. I'm so glad you two can share Christmas this year.

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  16. yay glad you two could share it!

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  17. What a lovely post. Truer words have not been spoken/written. Happy holidays to both of you!

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  18. I read this post just as I arrived for an all to short stay with family - it was just the reminder I needed. It helped me set aside the work I thought I "had" to do and instead spent two days just experiencing the holiday with my family.

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  19. For an "ineloquent" fill-in you have a way with words! Thanks for the gentle reminder to treasure what we have.

    Thanks, too, for your service and sacrifice over the years.

    Blessings to both of you as you begin this new phase...

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  21. This is beautiful. Bethany & Gabe: wishing you two a truly joyous end of 2011 together!

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  22. Did Gabriel pick out these pictures!? ;)

    I like this post. I'm a sucker for the significant other posts.

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  23. Please tell me why I am crying reading a post about Christmas in August. So so sweet!

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