1.11.2012

fistful of memories.


We'd been married two days, were making our way to the airport for our honeymoon when one of us said it. Gabe was the brave one, but his tone was shy and unsure.

"Is it just me...or does nothing feel different?"

The words had barely left his mouth before I laughingly shouted, "THANK YOU. Thank you! I've been thinking the same, but didn't want to say it. I feel like we're supposed to be changed or completely blissed out. Or freaked out. Or crestfallen that the wedding is over. But I just feel like regular ol' Gabe and Bethany!"

I'd been fully prepared to have wedding let-down. After all the planning, the prettiness, the  attention passed I thought for sure Gabe would find me in a sobbing puddle, shoveling leftover cake into my mouth, staring at Pinterest wedding boards and numbly mumbling, "It's over...it's really over...". But that didn't happen.

And here's why: People often talk about your wedding as the "biggest day of your life", and it's certainly one of them, yes. But I like to believe that when you marry the right person, your biggest days are still ahead. There's so much planning and dreaming to do...there will be more big days. There will. The honeymoon is over, but the happiness isn't. We're closer, we're happier and we're each more loved. And...bonus! We've got a few more memories under our belt.

If that's what marriage is...then sign me up for the long haul.

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Thank you so much for your sweet congratulatory comments here and on my Facebook page! You are amazing. I'm getting back into the blogging swing now that I'm home, but if you just can't wait to see honeymoon + a few wedding deets, find my photos for the past few weeks on Instagram: wwrinserepeat. :)

19 comments:

  1. I always think the same thing when people say their wedding was the best day of their lives. Doesn't that mean it can only go downhill from there? :D

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  2. That's so true. I'm not married (yet) but I've been in a relationship for four and a half years.. and can imagine myself feeling the same way.

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  3. I got a little teary when our honeymoon was over & my hubs said "But this is just the beginning!" He was so wise & so right- plus it gets better & better every day!

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  4. How sweet. I've always been a little nervous that I'll have thought about my wedding for so long, so much, that when it gets to it I will be really disappointed... but I guess you have to remember that as long as you know that person is closer to you than ever before it can never really be a disappointment x

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  5. Agreed!! We felt the same way! Actually, I was a mess after our honeymoon because I didn't want to go home! I was relieved, though, after the wedding was over, because it was such a stressful process (especially that last month).

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  6. hahaa i'm glad you didn't fall apart.
    :)
    consider yourself lucky to have had wedding bliss before the wedding!

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  7. Welcome back to blog land bethany!! And i love your perspective on getting married and how there will be big days and more memories, the wedding and all that entails is just the beginning of many many more wonderful experiences with the one you love!! so happy for you & Gabe! =)

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  8. I agree that my husband and I didn't feel any different when we got married, but I did feel different once wedding planning wasn't in my life anymore. I planned for the let down, which didn't happen right away and instead crept in over the next month. Thankfully I was aware of it, expected it, and had planned to fill my time with other fulfilling activities and projects, which I'm sure you'll have NO problem doing too. There is something special about planning your own wedding versus any other event and it IS an amazing day, but putting that same effort into making your marriage strong in it's foundation is a great outlet for all your creative juices that once went towards planning your big day. Good luck as you start the next stage of life with your terrific husband!

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  9. Welcome home, my friend! My married friend :)

    Looking forward to hearing about all the adventures that lie ahead for you two...

    xo

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  10. I totally went through "wedding planning withdrawl" after my wedding. But then I realized that we have other big and exciting things to look forward too! Congratulations again! :)

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  11. so glad you are back on here and are now a mrs.! i like that nothing has changed for you -- when we got married, i loved that we could see each other every single day. that was (and still is) my favorite part. no matter how busy we are, we can see each other at the end of the night (except of course, when c's off on a camping trip adventure). :)

    in related news, we must see each other and do dinner! with rachel! i have a wedding gift for you and g! :)

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  12. Congratulations, Bethany! I can't wait to hear all about everything! xx

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  13. I never subscribed to the wedding being the be-all and end-all of a woman's life. Yes, it was an awesome day but it was just an official declaration and a big party. You've clearly got your wits about you and the fact that you pressed fast forward on the wedding means you're in it for all the right reasons and I think you'll adjust to married life swimmingly :)

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  14. Keep these wonderful newlywed posts coming! They make me so excited to be married :)

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  15. First off.. new reader so CONGRATS! I love surprise weddings, I love weddings on NYE even more!

    Second thank you for this - stating it so perfectly. I felt like something was wrong with me and my hubby. We got married in October and we keep getting asked "So does it feel any different?" Truly it doesn't... other than I have this new sense of confidence. Not that I didn't before but there's something really special about knowing someone chose you, above all others to spend the rest of their life with. I love how you say the best is yet to come, SO true! Thank you and enjoy yourselves! ox

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  16. That photo is beautiful. I love this post, and even though I'm no where near ready to get married (sorry I can't offer you any advice, haha), I understand. You're right, there will be more big days and you have an amazing future to look forward to! Congrats on the wedding! :)

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  17. What a lovely post! And that picture is beautiful :D Love it!

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  18. so sweet. i'm glad you guys had such a wonderful time on your honeymoon :) and it's good to hear from the other side that sometimes things don't totally feel different. i have no idea how we're going to feel, but i hope it's nothing but happy :)

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