3.09.2012

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San Fran! But first: You're in for another Facebook giveaway. So, head over and keep your eyes peeled for a giveaway update sometime today!

Back to San Fran. Not next week, but the week AFTER...in twelve sleeps...I am headed to San Fran. Ultimately I'm going to Santa Cruz for the baby shower, but tacked on extra days in San Francisco. Just a few days for me to explore my favorite US city.

My biggest fear in getting married has always been that I'd lose myself and my independence. I ended previous relationships because they suffocated me, because we became one big scary "we blob" and I lost ME.  Lost my ability to go off on my own and be okay with it. I was constantly in need of someone by my side, not because I loved their presence, but because I forgot how to be alone. And I didn't like it.

If there's sunshine to be found in being apart from your husband, it is certainly that your relationship is structured around your love and your independence. I love a thousand things about my husband, but one of the largest is that he encourages me to be my own person. When I almost changed my mind about San Fran, my husband just said, "Go. You absolutely have to go! Book a cute hotel. Go."


Ah, my heart. He knows me so well.

Speaking of hearts, I'm sharing a bit of mine over at Micaela's blog today. She's lovely, go read!


16 comments:

  1. We are going to San Francisco a week from today. I have never been there, but have heard amazing things. Have fun on your adventure!

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  2. That's awesome Bethany! I completely understand how important it is to maintain your independence within a relationship and san francisco sounds lovely! I've never been there but I might be going to visit in october. I'm eager to read about your san francisco trip at a later date :) well you have a wonderful friday and weekend!!

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  3. One of my favorite cities! When I was there for work, I ate at this place called La Mar in the Embarcadero, which specializes in Peruvian food. I had never had it before, but loved it! And, also, they have great cocktails!

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  4. Have so much fun dear :) You deserve it! :)

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  5. I love San Francisco. One of my favorite places!

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  6. what a sweet guy, supporting you in this kind of thing. that's how you know you're perfect for each other. i hope you have so much fun!

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  7. can't wait to see the pictures!
    you reeled a good man in!
    :)

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  8. You have a winner :-) I spent one night in San Fran & I've wanted to go back ever since. Enjoy!!!!

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  9. I've only been to San Fran once, but I absolutely love it! My favorite place has always been in a city, and I just love the atmosphere of San Fran. And the temperature's pretty great too.
    I can't wait to hear all about your trip!!
    <3 Kiersten

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  10. I agree. I find it is so important to not lose sight of who you are when in a relationship, and unfortunately so many do.
    Kudos to you )and your husband!) for booking that much deserved little trip! Have an amazing time!!

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  11. say what? I'll be in SF from the 17th-22! Tell me we overlap at some point?!

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  12. @Kayla: YES. We do overlap! Sending you an email STAT! Would love to see your face, and call each other real life friends!! :)

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  13. That's fantastic! I think it's great that you still have your independence and you aren't afraid to use it. Have fun in San Fran and I'm sure you will have a wonderful time.

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  14. "Book a cute hotel." LOVE that. He knows you so well. So adorable!

    I'm so jealous of your trip to San Fran - make sure you take lots of photos for me, okay?

    I've always been afraid of the "we blob" too. I have friends who suddenly became useless when they entered into a long term relationship. They lost their sense of self and that scared me. But, Mr LG has done quite the opposite - he has made me more "me" than I could ever do by myself! He's helping me realise my dreams one step at a time! Married life is fabulous!

    x Jasmine

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  15. San Fran is one of my favorite cities, too! Enjoy it!

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