8.08.2016

nine hundred and forty four days later.




Yesterday, my phone buzzed with a text from Gabe:

"Your blog domain is about to expire. Do you want to renew it again?"

I set down my phone, and let out a whooshing, melodramatic sigh. This is annual conversational territory for us, usually responded to with a half-hearted "I guess I should"...but after 943 days of my blog gathering dust, I knew I needed to either retire this space or return to make use of it (which would include deleting all the spammy love spell and fortuneteller comments I've passively allowed to populate the comments section for the past three years).

"Let me sleep on it," I typed back. Having known me for years, he deciphered my code: I'll procrastinate on making a decision and toss a coin in the morning.

My main dilemma was this: when I blogged regularly, it was an exciting season of life. Mysterious pen-pal, turned boyfriend, turned fiancee! Romantic trips overseas! Parisian proposal! Wedding planning! Becoming an expat! Solo trips to Rome and Prague!

But, life for the past 944 days has not been particularly full of those top-of-the-roller coaster, highlight reel moments one would take time to photograph and write about. Life now is a 6am goodbye kiss on the way out the door, a walk with the dog around our quiet neighborhood. It's the daily shooing of the cat off my laptop while I respond to work emails, it's dinner eaten while watching The Daily Show. And, if we're having a particularly wild month, a wine-tasting date night squeezed in between book club meetings and family birthday parties.

Gabe and I often talk about the funny contrast between our lives just 5 years ago, and our lives now. There are days we miss the excitement of not knowing exactly where life was headed, of genuinely needing to have our passports handy at all times. Honestly, I'm not even entirely sure where my passport is these days. Is it underneath that pile of crumpled papers from the DMV? Perhaps it's tangled among that ridiculous ball of outdated iPhone cables in the junk drawer? God only knows.

Note to self: suss out my passport situation, should life ever become exciting and sexy again.

But here's the real truth: while I miss the excitement of those days gone by, I like the predictably of this season in life. The way Gabe comes home every day between 3 and 5, and that he often has a bottle of wine tucked under his arm. That our pets run--meowing and barking--to meet him at the door. The way he sings that silly little greeting song we made up to sing to our pets while we kiss them "hello". How he clips a rose from the blush-blossomed rose tree he brought home one weekend, and brings it inside just to make me smile. Or the way he makes pancakes every Saturday morning, and knows exactly how I like my latte.

Or the fact that after nearly five years of marriage, we've just created a mutually agreeable laundry-folding system. If that's not a memorable moment, then I'll be damned.

These little memories deserve to be tucked away too, I decided last night. Someday I'll want to return to revisit them, to smile over these simple yet sweet days. After all, there's beauty to be found in even in the simple moments that others would rightfully view as fairly mundane, and I've missed taking the time to preserve life beyond just an Instagram photo and an attempt at a witty caption.

So, in an effort to succinctly update you on my now 30-something life, here's a rundown.

Life moments, in numbers, since early 2014

Moving trucks packed: 2
Pets adopted: 1
Jobs accepted: 3 (Gabe-2, Bethany-1)
Squabbles over boring married couple issues, like whether crockpots are safe enough to be left running while gone, or what date is appropriate for setting out fall decor: 17
Books read: 23 (approximately)
Cars purchased: 1
Peaches harvested from our backyard: Innumerable
Jars of peach jam I made: 11
Jars of hot jam dropped on the floor: 3
Businesses launched: 1
Laptops killed: 2
Children had: 0 (maybe someday we'll get around to it?)
Friends made: 9
Times I felt genuinely grateful to share a life with someone I like and love : 944

Well, then! That catches us up to speed quite nicely doesn't it? 

All that to say, hello again...and I'll be back soon. :)

54 comments:

  1. So glad you're back! Can't wait to read more. I'm curious about your flower making skills! I've seen some gorgeousness on Insta!

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Rosemary!! I'll have to do a flower post one of these days. By no means an expert, but I really do love it. :)

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  2. Soooooooooooo happy x a million you are back!

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    1. Happy X a million that you're still reading, Anna!! :)

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  3. Squealed in excitement to see an update from you! So glad all is well and that you and Gabe are loving and enjoying life! Can't wait to read more...

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    1. Aww, Abigail! That's so adorable! Thank you. Life is really good. Just a little less exciting than it once was. Thank you for hanging around all these years! :)

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  4. Is your Instagram public? I'd love to follow you and get my pretty picture fix! Lol

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    1. It is!! My IG account is @bonjourbloom . I recently launched an event floral biz, so it's a little less personal than it once was, but it's public! :)

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    1. Aw, thank you for missing and for reading the waaaaay overdue update! :)

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  6. I'm so excited to see you pick back up in this space! I love the days with routine too and I bet in five years things will look different again, and that you're right in that it'd be nice to look back on things.

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    1. Thank you, Alli! So happy we've stayed in touch all these years. :)

      And you're so right. In five years, life will probably be so different...it will be fun to take a peek back into these sweet years. :)

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  7. SO glad you're back! I've been checking in periodically to see if you've returned....this was a lovely surprise!

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Sara! It made me smile to read that you checked in over the years. Thank you for hanging around. I'm so lucky to have people like you reading along! :)

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  8. Brought a smile to my face to see any update on Facebook from your blog. Glad life is treating you well. I feel the same about blogging. Hopefully you will find something worth writing about soon. :)

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    1. Thank you, Kaelea! It makes me smile to know you've stuck around even though I've been preeeeetty quiet for several years! :) I'm starting a little list of things to write about so I don't go this long between posts in the future. ;)

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  9. Great to see an update! I'm glad you're doing well and having fun. I've always admired your candor about certain subjects in the past and that's what drew me to you and your blog, way more than the 'exciting season' you're referring to. It would lovely to read more soon! Welcome back :)

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    1. Thank you so much for the sweet welcome back! It is so heartwarming to hear that you were reading along for my honesty on the sticky topics, rather than the exciting life season. Sometimes it's so easy to feel like your life boils down to what you do, rather than who you are (or maybe that's just how our culture is these days)? Thank you for sticking around. I promise to share candidly, as always! :)

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  10. So very happy to see an update from you! I read your blog years ago and checked it daily for a long time. I thought of it recently and checked in to see that you were still on hiatus, so seeing this update on my Facebook thrilled me to no end! Looking forward to hearing about your adventures and non-adventures in this season of your life.

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Sara!! It means so much to me that you've stuck around all these years...thank you from the bottom of my heart! :)

      Sidenote: there are definitely more non-adventures these days than full blown adventures. ;)

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  11. It's good to hear from you on here again! I'm afraid to look at how long it's been since I last wrote a blog post! Life has different seasons and it's nice to be in a slower one. I know it wont last forever! I hope you post more soon! ♥

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    1. It's so easy to get out of the habit and let months slip by! Thank you so much for the sweet comment. You're so right, it is nice to enjoy the slower seasons of life! :)

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  12. Nice to see you back! Your Dad missed these glimses into your life and the occasional need to grab a Kleenex. I wish you success and happiness in your effort to pick this back up again. You have a gift girl.

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  13. Yayyy!! I've been keeping up with you via Instagram these past 944 and you life has never seemed lovelier. I'm glad to see you dusting off the blog, the little moments are definitely worth noting :)

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    1. Aww...thank you so much, Catharine! That is such a kind comment!! I love watching your adventures and life on IG. Give Geoffrey some scratches and treats from Butters and me. :)

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  14. this is so odd and wonderful - i was thinking about you the other week, hwat might have happend to you, how your life turned out... and here you are! so glad to have you back!!!

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    1. That is such crazy timing!! Thank you so much for thinking of me...surprise, I'm here! :)

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  15. Huzzah! You're back!! I can't wait to see more blog posts!

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    1. Aw, thanks, Theresa! :) More to come!!

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  16. It was such a nice surprise to see your post pop up on my bloglovin feed. Welcome back!! And although I've said this before but thank you again for the wonderful wedding planning advice you gave me 3 years ago. It helped calmed my nerves tremendously. I'm happy to report everything is still going strong. Can't wait to read more of your blog posts!

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    1. Woohoo!! Glad everything is going well in the love life! That makes me smile. Totally not an expert, but always happy to share my experiences. :)

      Thank you so much for reading, and for the warm welcome back!

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  17. I know all about the struggle to keep up with blogging. Sometimes writing is the best thing I do and sometimes it is the most tedious. Really love the way you did your update. Can't wait to read more.

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    1. Yes! So true...it vacillates between being exciting and fun, and really feeling like a chore. I'm trying to find the fun in it again!

      Thanks for reading! :)

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  18. So happy you're back. I love your writing.

    Recently posted -> "Changing Careers: The Job Hunt"https://poweredbysass.com/2016/08/09/changing-careers-the-job-hunt/

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    1. Aw, thanks Kaitlyn...and thank you for the sweet FB comment earlier today! You're making me feel all kinds of love. :)

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  19. Bethany--WAHOO!! I have been missing these. I've always enjoyed the way you write (so well done!) and the pictures! Oh my gosh the pictures are always amazingly beautiful. I'm jealous of your roller-coaster days and can't wait to hear more from you! My gosh I use too many !!!s...
    -Livvia from that one art class thing

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    1. You are making me blush, Livvia! Thank you so much for the kind words! :)

      I miss our fun times in art class...I have such fond memories of that semester! (Even though I suuuuuucked at it. Ha.) Hope you are doing well, too! :)

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  20. High fives girl! Loved seeing this post! I love your heart and am so glad the coin landed in the "to blog" court!! There is beauty in the mundane too!! Xoxo

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    1. Aw, Jess....thank you for the sweet words, and for always being such a kind supporter to me! You will always be the Blogger of All Bloggers to me, and I've loved watching your creativity shine through the years!

      Btw, just fiiiiinnally ordered Big Magic. Thank you for making me do so! :)

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  21. Yay! I just reread a bunch of your posts last month and hoped one day you'd return :)

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    1. No way, Melanie! It's like we were in sync. Here I am! Thank you for hanging around...even if I took foreeeever to finally show up again. :)

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  22. I actually prefer your blog when it consists of "just" everyday happenings and everyday life. I am keeping my fingers crossed (all the way from Sweden) that this place will come back to life :) It has such a nice feel to it, so cozy and sweet!

    Heaps of hugs x

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    1. Aw, YAY! Thank you Julia. It's always so nice to know that people won't ditch ya when they realize your life is pretty average. ;) Thank you for reading along, and for the kind welcome back!!

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  23. SO happy to see you back. You made a huge impact on my life when you were in Kuwait and I was studying abroad in France and was deeply depressed. I'm happy to read about your everyday life! It's just as good :)

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    1. Aww...Kait! Thank you so much....such a sweet comment. So happy to hear I was a little helpful during those lonely, homesick days...and so grateful that you've stuck around! How are you these days? Life good?

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  24. Bethany!!!!!!!!!!! My heart is super happy to see your blog pop up in my feed! I get excited every time you Instagram, but this is even better :) your words have always inspired me. It blows my mind that it's been so long since you last blogged (and that you've been married that long !!!!!) I would love to hear more about your lives and your business. So exciting!! Xo

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  25. So awesome to see that smile and read your words. You are always like a ray of sunshine on a cloudy morning. Or at least you are today - it's cloudy here. ;)

    I'm so happy you are doing well and settling into your normal.

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  27. Bethany!! I can't tell you how excited I am to see you blogging again. I remember when you first arrived to Kuwait and how I hoped you would fall in love with it the way I had so many years earlier. You and Gabe moved back to the US shortly after Talal and I left Kuwait and I remember being so excited for that new chapter in your life as well. The way you write is magical and draws a picture for us readers. Welcome back <3

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  28. OMG! I literally said that out loud! So happy to hear you will be blogging again. You have been missed! xoxo

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